Politicians depend on voters to get elected. A salesperson depends on people to purchase whatever they are selling.
A teachers success is tied to how well students respond to the lessons. The common thread through each of those scenarios is that everyone’s success hinges on getting other people to buy into their ideas.
You can’t have success alone, you always need others to make it happen. This is an important concept because being a new business owner means you have a double burden. One one hand you need the support of the community you serve plus you need the support of your employees to carry out your instructions.
Now that you know WHY you need the support of others to have success, you are probably wondering HOW do I go about getting that support. The answer is simple… CHANGE HOW YOU THINK TOWARDS OTHERS.
The concept is rather simple. When you change how you think toward others, other change how they think towards you. Now the next question is how EXACTLY is that done. Well the good news is that it’s not that hard. It revolves around seven principles. I’ll go over each of them real briefly.
Tip Number 1 – Be “light to lift”. My mentor always told me “be light to lift”. Basically that means having no preconditions for friendship. This means removing barriers to friendships and having the ability to get along with all types of people. When you do this you instantly become more likeable. People hire likeable people over those with superior talent time and time again, so be sure that you are “light to lift”.
Tip Number 2 – Take the initiative in building friendships. This boils down to not waiting around your whole life for others to come to you and make your dreams come true. You need the opposite to happen. You need to go to others first. That first step is key because those that take the first step are viewed as both a leader and confident in their abilities.
Tip Number 3 – Accept human differences. This means stop expecting perfection in others. Nobody is close to 100 percent perfect, not even you. So the sooner you accept that act the better off you will be. So stop trying to reform others by chastising them over small things that rub you the wrong way. Go by the motto “live and let live” instead.
Tip Number 4 – Stay positive. You have two choices each day. Everyday in your life for that matter, and that is are you going to look at events through a positive mindset or will you look at it from a negative mindset. If you choose negative will only drive people away from you. To have the support of others you need to be positive. So the choice is clear, be positive.
Tip Number 5 – Practice “give and take” when speaking to others. Did you ever meet someone who could speak non-stop without ever letting you get a word in? When people do that they are subconsciously letting you know that you aren’t all that important. If they had any interest, they would ask questions and listen to what you had to say. Successful people tend to ask questions then listen. That’s the secret to making new friends.
Tip Number 6 – Be courteous all the time. This may sound a little old-fashioned, but it’s important. Details like how courteous you are matter. To be better at it just treat the people you meet in the course of your day “as if they are guests in your home”. This mindset will change the way you treat others when you are out and about.
Tip Number 7 – Don’t blame others. When things don’t go your way, don’t sulk and create some reason why you didn’t get what you wanted. Instead try to make yourself more deserving. Try to make improvements so that next time you have a better chance of getting the reward or recognition you desire.
I’m going to wrap this up now by reminding you that the most basic rule for achieving success is realizing that your success is dependent on the support of others. And if you take these seven tips to heart you’ll certainly be on your way to having more than enough support to make your dreams come true.